Divorce-Not always Greener on the other side

Family Lawyer

Divorce is a horrible painful thing. If you can save your marriage, I recommend you put all your effort into it.

If your marriage can not be saved, divorce is the process of ending it. This process is expensive, takes time and effort and is very upsetting.

First, just look at the process from a non-lawyer perspective. There are two people with assets and one set of bills. After a divorce and during, there are two sets of bills and the same income. It does not work.

Second, a divorce attorney is going to want a $5,000 retainer to start. This retainer is billed hourly. Unfortunately, the billing seems to go on and on despite the fact that most cases can or could be settled early on in the process. This is generally caused by the emotion of the parties. The parties are upset, that is why they are filing for divorce. This generally leads to unnecessary litigation because the parties are being unreasonable. By unreasonable, I mean the parties are upset and want to fight.

Third, the process is adversarial. The parties are already mad at each other and now the process itself leads to more expense and taking an adversarial position in the litigation process.

Remember, there are NO WINNERS in a divorce. It is an expensive, adversarial process that by definition ends with two people splitting their assets and having double the bills.

I always examine the situation and recommend a fair settlement. The process is by statute. Generally 50-50 split of assets and debts. If a settlement can not be reached, I will do as instructed by my client.

In the end, there is a hearing in front of a Judge, no jury, and the Judge will make the decisions for you in what he or she believes to be a fair manner.

As with all cases, I will provide a free consultation to evaluate your individual situation.

Just be advised, divorce is difficult both emotionally and monetarily. Being able to remove the emotion and being ready to compromise can save time, aggravation and money.

Further, if you have your driving information handy and ready, this should speed up the process. You know the first thing any officer will want is your identification. Have it ready and proper. If you are in a vehicle, guess what they will want? They will want your driver’s license, insurance, and registration. Have it ready. Keep all of this in one spot and handy to produce easily. If you are fumbling around searching for these documents it creates suspicion right away. If you are missing these documents it will create an issue. Think about it. Why would you want any officer waiting on you? Looking into your private vehicle? Wondering why you cannot locate common documents? If I was an officer, it would signal my further curiosity.

Further, if you have your driving information handy and ready, this should speed up the process. You know the first thing any officer will want is your identification. Have it ready and proper. If you are in a vehicle, guess what they will want? They will want your driver’s license, insurance, and registration. Have it ready. Keep all of this in one spot and handy to produce easily. If you are fumbling around searching for these documents it creates suspicion right away. If you are missing these documents it will create an issue. Think about it. Why would you want any officer waiting on you? Looking into your private vehicle? Wondering why you cannot locate common documents? If I was an officer, it would signal my further curiosity.

Be polite, have your documents ready and available, follow instructions carefully and do not make any suspicious movements and this should make the officer more relaxed and your experience faster and more pleasant.

Lastly, take the opportunity to thank the officer for their service.

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